There is a TV show on called “Wie is de Mol” (The Mole in English). It is probably the only show I have followed on television in the last five years.
The idea is simple. There are nine contestants and one mole. Through a variety of games and assignments the contestants have to figure out who the mole is. The mole basically tries to screw everything up for the contestants – in a not so obvious way ofcourse. At the end of every episode the contestants take a test about who they think the mole is. The person with the lowest score goes home.
The psychology behind this is fascinating. Everybody becomes suspicious of one another. Is he the mole? Why did he do that? That is very suspicious. Etc
In the heat of the moment they seem to forget that there is only one person who can not be trusted, but they end up trusting no one and start playing (mind) games themselves too!
Imagine how this is for you in your own life? How does one experience of mistrust affect your relationships with other people?
I trust people, I want to trust people, I want to see the good in everyone at all times. It is not always easy, but this mole-metaphor is a good reminder that the majority of us are actually good people, it is just a minority that makes us think otherwise.
Trust is a beautiful thing.
(Btw, trusting people is good, but it doesn’t mean that you should leave your car unlocked)