A thought pops into your mind. For the next twenty minutes your mind is completely occupied by this thought and every other thought, idea & fantasy triggered by it.
You are just absorbed by it, like a daydream. You can even feel the story in your mind coming true.
Does this sound familiar to you? Then keep reading, because you can actually benefit from this daydreaming.
Note how I did not mention whether the imagined situation was good or bad. Because it does not really matter, whether you fantasize about something stress-evoking or if it gives you butterflies in your stomach. The essential thing is drifting away in thought.
If you do generally imagine worrying, stress-creating scenarios in your mind then it is time to change that into a more empowering fantasy. After all, we worry the most about things that never happen.
Even if you wander off into a beautiful wonderland full of flying unicorns, the chances of that dream coming true is not big either. You can however learn a lot from it and, as we will see later in this article, you can fine tune that dream with some powerful techniques to turn them into reality.
What matters is that you are aware of those moments where you drift off in thought. Secondly you want to understand why you fantasize about exactly that what you fantasize about and not of something else. Eventually you want to act on that knowledge.
If you haven’t already, I encourage you to use my little guide to start acting on that knowledge.
For example, I often daydream about living on a beach. It is usually triggered when I am running around the busy, dirty town of Lusaka.
In a way it is definitely a beautiful daydream. Who does not like the beach?
But at the same time it is a tricky scenario to think of, because it accentuates the few things I don’t enjoy about living here. The contrast between an ideal situation and what is here right now becomes bigger.
What You Can Learn From Daydreaming
Your daydreams are often triggered by a thought about an external event. My example about the beach was triggered by my view of the busy, dirty city.
Almost every time I have to go down-town Lusaka I get annoyed by several inconveniences one would not have in the Western world. What annoys me most is that many day-to-day items, such as a tap, are not readily available. A shopping trip that would take me 10 minutes back home can take me two hours here.
When you are aware of exactly what it is that annoys you, then you can do something about it.
One: accept this as a part of the lifestyle here. All the beautiful things of living here outweigh these temporary inconveniences. Perhaps I can limit my trips to town by doing all my shopping in one trip.
Two: If it is really too much to handle, than imagine a more ideal scenario.
I generally prefer the first option, because no place is as ideal as you imagine it to be. Every place has things you do like and don’t like. Accepting that as fact is more powerful than trying to run away from it.
How You Can Turn Your Daydreams Into Reality
The main problem with daydreaming, as I described it, is that it is generally done undirected and unconsciously.
You can actually make these dreams come true by creating a very likeable scenario in your mind.
A couple of things you have to keep in mind:
- Be as specific as you can be. Don’t just see yourself living on the beach. What else are you doing? Do you still work? If yes, what job do you have? If no, how do you earn your money? Is the water warm or cold? Go into great detail. The greater the detail the easier it is for your dream to materialise.
- Be positive. Not just a bit, but completely. Focus on what you do want, not on what you don’t want, because you will get exactly what you ask for. Do you want to pass an exam? Picture yourself passing it. Don’t picture yourself stressing about and failing it.
- Infuse your fantasy with emotion. Feel as if you already live the dream. What does it feel like and actually bring that feeling up as if your dream has come true already.
- Have faith. The first three steps are relatively easy to accomplish with a bit of focused brainpower. But they will only have their full effect when you actually believe you will get what you dream of.
If you struggle to have faith, try making a little list of all the things you have accomplished in your life or things you thought would happen. For example, I remember thinking of winning a soccer tournament, convinced that it would happen, and it did.
A more comprehensive guide to create a reality you want can be found here (for free).
To summarize it all
Be aware of the daydream.
Be aware that the majority of your daydreams do not come true (both the good & the bad).
Take it a step further by turning your daydream into a reality.